Do you carry your ‘monster’ in a box?
Monsters are scary. Monsters are mean. Monsters can tear us apart. Monsters can control us through fear. We all know monsters don’t exist but many of us felt fear as children when we pondered the monster in the closet. We eventually grew up and as we grew we realized that the monster was in our heads and the fear was in our hearts. We were afraid of the unknown and that unknown took on our own manifestations of fear as we imagined what horrors lurked in the closet. That’s why many of us left the closet door open…with the light on.
Hurts are like that. We get hurt…often. It’s a fact of life. Loved ones hurt us. Medical conditions hurt us. Relationships hurt us. Friends hurt us. Strangers hurt us. Sometimes we hurt ourselves. None of us are immune.
Some of us try to paint over the hurt. Some of us try to shrug off the hurt. Some of us just try to get past the hurt. Many of us (including me) hold on to hurt.
We put that hurt in a box, slam the lid shut and carry it around with us. It’s our secret. It’s our hurt. We share it with no one. It lives and grows in the dark. In our minds we’ve “contained” the hurt, but in reality it’s growing and the fear of letting it out of the box makes our imaginations run wild. What if everyone knows about it. What if everyone is already talking about it. What if no one understands. What if this hurt never goes away. What if I let this hurt out and I never stop crying because it hurts sooo much. What if letting this hurt out will hurt someone else.
Fear and shame thrive in the darkness. Let the monster out of the box. Hurts cannot grow in the light of God. Instead of squirreling them away in a box, wear them like a flower in your lapel. Once you do, you’ll realize the hurt no longer has power over you. It can terrorize you no more. What’s more, if you trust God enough to keep his promises (see verses below) you will find that blessings none of us are capable of imagining will manifest all around you and in your own heart. Before you know it…the hurt will heal.
I know it sounds simple and that’s because it is. Like turning on the light in the closet to get rid of the monster, sharing your hurt with God and others heals your hurt. The longer you hold on to your hurt and nurture it, the harder it is to let it go. Trust God, name your hurt, and let it dissipate in the light of the Lord.
Psalms 147:3 NKJV He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
Psalms 34:18 The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
1 John 1:7-9 But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin. If we claim we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves and not living in the truth. But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.