There are self-improvement guru’s all around us on the TV, radio, internet, book stores, and in places you don’t expect like the women’s bathroom at your favorite restaurant. What bugs me about this most is that the guru’s ideas of what we “should be” may be far from a realistic goal for most of us. Thus begins self-loathing and in my case alot of groaning as I try to turn the madness off and attempt to escape it.
I say drop the self-loathing like a hot pebble. Make changes for the better but do it from a source of love instead of loathing. Instead of all the self-berrating, say to yourself, “I want to do what is GOOD and RIGHT for this mind, body and soul because the temple of my soul, the seat of my soul, and I deserve it”.
Negative commentary is not necessary and is indeed harmful. After all, science finally agrees with what your mother always told you, “Your words are the words you will believe the most”. Consider what you say to yourself and begin a positive change with that. Any changes you make whether it be more exercise, healthier (not less) food, meditating/praying more, or learning to let go of anger always begins with one step, false starts, and a few slip-ups. Remember to forgive yourself when you slip back into old habits (by the way an old habit becomes a new habit if you do it more than 2 days in a row). Until you hit your new stride remember the words of Katherine Hepburn:”When you follow all the rules, you miss all the fun”.
Start small with ONE change. Do what you can….but don’t wait for perfect. The perfect time, the perfect circumstances, the perfect diet, the perfect self-help book, the perfect emotional setting – it’s all a fantasy that exists in your own mind. Just do it! Each journey begins with a single step, so take it! There is no better time than now. Forgive the missteps and get back on the path. Remember the words of Deepak Chopra: “Value who you are. Enjoy your uniqueness and don’t compare yourself with others and put yourself down. Love is everywhere!” Love yourself enough to be good to yourself (mind, body, and soul).
1 Corinthians 6:29-20 Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
What do you say to yourself every morning when you face yourself in the mirror? Do you say it outloud? Is it something you’d like to SHARE or CHANGE?